Growing through Awareness and Forgiveness

by Mental Health

Covering the last couple chapters of “The Four Agreements,” we focus on growing awareness and forgiveness, how to identify old and unhealthy agreements, and how to replace them with new ones.

Explore how to accept the whole of our lives, including the suffering, and learn to forgive by not being trapped by the stories and agreements that are limiting our vision of a more expansive and growth-oriented life. To learn more about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) which will support this process, check out the following resources:

Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life by Steven Hayes

The Confidence Gap by Russ Harris

Or you can make an appointment with me at Life Weavings.




“Focusing only on the pain places awareness on the wrong object, the other person. Forgiveness is not about figuring out the other person who did the wrong, though at times that can certainly help. Forgiveness is instead a re-assertion of the reality of one’s existence, a wholeness of which we at a deeper understanding are always in possession of, where the pain/shame of hurt is no longer the only voice in our mind.”

From The Inner Projection of Forgiveness

“If we are able to accept and move on from the moments of action that were not the greatest example of our stated values, then surely we can learn to apply the same understanding to others.”

From Forgiveness: A Value to Identify Our Humanity

Although it takes time, commitment and a desire to grow, growing awareness and practicing forgiveness can set you free.

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