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Exploring ideas related to life, relationships, spirituality and mental health.

The Story of Your Anger

The Story of Your Anger

We like to think of our emotions in neat and tidy labels, as if they're picked out from a carnival game, the claw of our consciousness selecting the right one. Adding to this narrow vision of our lives, we then place judgments on our feelings, claiming some are "good"...

Sharing Humanity Within Conflict

Sharing Humanity Within Conflict

Raised voices. Increased heartrate. Narrowed vision. All the physical hallmarks of a discussion that devolved into argumentation and conflict. That these same physical experiences can also be seen when participating in a game with a team or during intensely intimate...

Culture as Reality Shaping

Culture as Reality Shaping

Communication is more than words being exchanged between two or more people. It's also more than the non-verbal physical cues made famous by such shows as "Lie to Me." When people engage in dialogue, they're seeking to build a relationship of perspective with reality...

We Cannot Divorce People From Culture

We Cannot Divorce People From Culture

Does the clothing make the person or the person make the clothing? While this question is typically related to dresses and women, the inquiry knows no gender. At the heart of the question is a consideration of the relationship between the created and the creator,...

Exploring the nature of 'anecdotal evidence,' why it's so enticing and why we all engage in it. The power of the anecdote or story resides in what stories are: the creation of causal connections within our perception. We are declaring what we believe the world to be....

A Universe of Perspective

A Universe of Perspective

Stories are how we bind individual perception and social reality. Consider from a nautical metaphor, where stories are the lines connecting individual boats with the social pier. Sure, the boat exists but until it gets close enough to dock, the details of its make are...

Setting goals too often leads us into shame and self-doubt. I want to encourage you to possibly stop goal-setting for a moment and focus on what you care about. Start livable goals from a place of what you're already doing, succeed from a place of plenty rather than...

Stop Setting Goals, Start Living From Values

Stop Setting Goals, Start Living From Values

Starting from a deficit is always frustrating because after all the work done and resources used to get oneself to the surface, you often find yourself exhausted by the journey. Further, deficit thinking has us defining ourselves from the perspective of where we're...

Putting Consequences in their Place

Putting Consequences in their Place

Working with clients going through difficult times, many questions come up concerning fairness, justice, and responsibility. The world, it becomes painfully obvious, doesn't respond to our thoughts the way we'd like. Our pictures/stories of 'what should be' rarely...

You Are Not the Sum of Your Parts

You Are Not the Sum of Your Parts

When I was a kid there was a toy I loved, a kaleidoscope of sorts, where you looked in one end and by turning the other end, sifted grains of multi-colored sand to make different patterns. You couldn't add any new grains, you couldn't change the colors. The only thing...

Reminding Yourself of the Ground

Reminding Yourself of the Ground

How much of your life has happened without your conscious awareness? Sure, there's the approximately 8 hours a day of sleep, which, doing the math, is 2920 hours, translated to 121 days or 4 months. Yup, 4 months out of the year is spent sleeping. Now let's expand on...