perspective
Losing Sight of the Real You

Losing Sight of the Real You

Imagine looking in the mirror and seeing someone else's face. Frightened? Confused? Wondering whether you're dreaming? The level of concern here connects us to why we get frustrated when other people don't seem to see us accurately. We act in an 'as if' universe,...

Exploring the nature of 'anecdotal evidence,' why it's so enticing and why we all engage in it. The power of the anecdote or story resides in what stories are: the creation of causal connections within our perception. We are declaring what we believe the world to be....

A Universe of Perspective

A Universe of Perspective

Stories are how we bind individual perception and social reality. Consider from a nautical metaphor, where stories are the lines connecting individual boats with the social pier. Sure, the boat exists but until it gets close enough to dock, the details of its make are...

You Are Not the Sum of Your Parts

You Are Not the Sum of Your Parts

When I was a kid there was a toy I loved, a kaleidoscope of sorts, where you looked in one end and by turning the other end, sifted grains of multi-colored sand to make different patterns. You couldn't add any new grains, you couldn't change the colors. The only thing...

Reminding Yourself of the Ground

Reminding Yourself of the Ground

How much of your life has happened without your conscious awareness? Sure, there's the approximately 8 hours a day of sleep, which, doing the math, is 2920 hours, translated to 121 days or 4 months. Yup, 4 months out of the year is spent sleeping. Now let's expand on...

Life as A Learning Process

Life as A Learning Process

Ask yourself "What do I believe?" and the result will likely be a cascade of memories highlighting actions, thoughts and experiences fitting a particular set of Virtues, or Values-in-action. The whole of this cascade will provide the basis for a rather nice structure...

On Being Shy

On Being Shy

Often when making dire universal assessments about our lack of something, it’s more about us not seeing what we already have or are doing, and because of that not growing from a place of presence.

Our Self-Limiting Stories

Our Self-Limiting Stories

    It can be helpful to consider each of us as tiny lenses peering through a dark veil covering the whole of reality. We only identify what’s important based on the lens or identity we’ve pre-selected as being who we believe ourselves to be....

Shifting Perspective to Avoid Shallow Judgment

Shifting Perspective to Avoid Shallow Judgment

  How our ability to shift perspective includes others and our own future selves. Trap is in thinking such stories about intent are anything more than guesswork. Reading from The Atlantic article "Self-Control is Just Empathy with Your Future Self" by Ed Yong....