Relationship Dynamics
Boundaries Are Sponges

Boundaries Are Sponges

“Give me some space.” The request starts small, can quickly escalate, burdened as it is with the emotional weight of feeling trapped, harried and closed in. At any given time in our lives, many of us have uttered the phrase, or wanted to, or heard it from another....

A Foundation Of Relationships

A Foundation Of Relationships

Determining whether one is "in" a relationship seems like a culturally constructed form of self-torture. When a teenager it was all anyone wanted to know. Lest anyone think such antics are grown out of, the adult world is filled with opportunities to ask the question,...

Yes You’re In A Relationship

Yes You’re In A Relationship

The broader reality in which we all dwell is one of constant and ubiquitous relational connections. In even the quickest and most superficial of interactions there exists a relationship. The homeless person on the street we connect with by not interacting has a...

Possibility Relationally Constructed

Possibility Relationally Constructed

The notion of control is at the heart of our judicial system, the foundation of most popular theories of morality and a powerful component of what is perceived as a healthy relationship in the sense of a lack of control being beneficial. I have spoken before...

Self-Image as Story-telling

Self-Image as Story-telling

Once Halloween has come and gone, the princesses put up their tiaras, the super-heroes fold their capes and the monsters scrub off their paint and scabs and scars. Every year we, children and those of us who keep our inner-child alive through more than eating gummy...